My Happy Place Fishing

One of my Godsons went fishing yesterday, and I know it is one of his most favorite things to do.  I realized I have never gone fishing with him.  That led me to think about the change of a relationship.  I know most can relate.  What do you do when you have a relationship with a person; then it all changes - it never seems to go back to the way it was.  I know parents experience this as kids grow.  Some yearn for the infant stage when their babies need them for everything.  Some hate the feeling of seeing their child leave the nest.  Others can relate through a best friend, maybe through high school, but when graduation happens, the relationship is never the same.  I have a few of these, and I can honestly say, I miss them.  I miss some of the open conversations or being able to just be yourself.  Even now, I have a few people, who may have used to be friends, that won't even return my call or email.  I can say it truly sucks.  What about family?  How about that favorite aunt or uncle, and as time passes, the calls get fewer, and then there is no communication.  This blog has truly opened some doors within my soul, I must have locked so tightly, I forgot they were there.  I find I don't let go as easily anymore.  I still try to reach out every now and then even when I know there will be no return on the other end.  I always figured when people get to that point, the soul of the person, maybe I once knew, no longer exists.  My dad has a theory that if they owe you money, you just paid that much to get rid of the problem.  No matter how you see it, the moments that were shared will always be remembered and sometimes even longed for.  I always tell one of my sisters when I pass, I do not want her crying because if she is, she did not take advantage of the time we had to share.  I think about my grandfather all the time and how his passing pushed me to be greater.  I don't believe people look down from heaven, but I do think he would be proud as I try to continue some of the traits he possessed.  Through me, he continues to live.  Some relationship endings we can't control; others we can.  Everyday, or maybe every week or month, I try to challenge myself to maintain relationships because those people mean that much to me.  Don't get me wrong, I do have some relationshps that I have ended as they were headed nowhere.  If you have ever had someone hold you down, you will understand what I mean.  If you have been a person to hold others down, this may be foreign.  Back to my Godson, I can imagine him just sitting there without a care in the world.  When he is in a happy place, it is one of the most enjoyable things to see.  Like that great relationship, when in the middle, it can be one of the happiest places to be.  I challenge all to find that happy place in the people you value most.